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Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we instantly improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making fast, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In last week’s BLOG I’ve shown you “The perfect excuse why Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care have no PEACE OF MIND, control, power& influence!”
You can check out last week’s BLOG by clicking on the link here!
In this week’s BLOG I want to show you “Why the often STRICTLY ACADEMIC VIEW of the Intensive Care team might HOLD YOU BACK from PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!”
When you and your Family are challenged with this “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situation of having a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care and when you and your Family feel and think that you are in a situation where you are frustrated, in fear, you are stressed, overwhelmed and you have no PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence, you must know that you are not alone!
99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care know and feel like they have no PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence and especially if you and your Family are facing those inevitable challenges when your critically ill loved one is either
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
you know exactly what I’m talking about here, because after I have literally worked with thousands of critically ill Patients and their Families in more than 15 years Intensive Care nursing in three different countries, I have effectively dealt with, supported, counselled and guided Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care through this “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” challenge over and over again!
Your loved one’s fate and destiny appears to be in the Intensive Care team’s hands…
And look, the reality and the fact of the matter is that if you, your Family and your critically ill loved one are dealing with one of those massive “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” challenges where your critically ill loved one is one of those big challenging situations they can ever go through in Intensive Care, you know that you really have no idea where you should be putting your efforts towards and you really don’t know what questions you need to ask and worst of all, you really have no PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
Even worse, you and your Family feel like the Intensive Care team is talking over you, rather than entering into a genuine dialogue with you, the Intensive Care team maybe very vague in their communications with you and you can literally feel that your loved one’s fate and destiny appears to be in the Intensive Care team’s hands. PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence for you and your Family seem to be terms that are a Million miles away!
Even worse, during those challenging, frustrating, difficult and often heartbreaking experiences where your critically ill loved one is either
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
the Intensive Care team seems to be using terms, words and expressions that are very clinical, very academic, they may even sound threatening and at the end of the day they are using their academic jargon that can be rather intimidating for Families of critically ill Patients!
The Intensive Care team’s jargon and academic view is used to “cement” their positioning
After all, the members of the Intensive Care team must be very smart, very accomplished and they must know what they are doing!?!?
Isn’t that what society has wrongly conditioned us for centuries, that doctors must know what’s best? Isn’t that what we are meant to believe?
But I also bet that deep down you and your Family don’t want to be kept at arm’s length! You and your Family don’t want to be at the mercy of the Intensive Care team during one of those challenging, frustrating and “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situations when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!
What you and your Family don’t know is that most decisions in Intensive Care are made “BEHIND THE SCENES”, BEHIND CLOSED DOORS!
The positioning of your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis and prognosis during one of those challenging and “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situations that I mentioned before, as well as the treatment and the care that your critically ill loved one is receiving or not receiving is a direct result from what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care! It’s basically a direct by-product from the intrigue, the dynamics, the power play, the psychology and the hidden agendas from the Intensive Care team!
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You are playing a high stakes game and only the Intensive Care team knows how to play!
Intensive Care is a multi- Billion $$$ Dollar per year Industry, Intensive Care beds tend to be in high demand and very expensive and the bottom line is that you and your Family are involved in a high stakes game and you didn’t see it coming!
You see, because you have found yourself in such challenging, dramatic, frustrating and “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” circumstances, the Intensive Care team has no intentions to relinquish any control, power and influence to you. The stakes are too high for the Intensive Care team, period!
The problem is that the stakes are even higher for you, for your Family and for your critically ill loved one! After all the very life, the very well being and the very recovery of your critically ill loved one are in the Intensive Care team’s hands, or at least that’s what you think and that’s how it’s being framed and positioned by the Intensive Care team!
The reality and the fact of the matter is however that the Intensive Care team loves to use their strictly academic views as a weapon and positioning tool whilst you r loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care! It’s not only a weapon for positioning, for power and for perceived superiority, it’s also a weapon used by the Intensive Care team so that you and your Family don’t get to see what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” and BEHIND CLOSED DOORS in Intensive Care!
Money talks “BEHIND CLOSED DOORS” in Intensive Care
Once again, with Intensive Care being such a dominant and important multi- Billion $$$ per year Industry, you need to very quickly understand that the decisions and the positioning about your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis and prognosis from the Intensive Care team is always derived from
- The financial viability of your critically ill loved one’s stay in Intensive Care from the Intensive Care team’s perspective, i.e. will they make money or will they lose money. Imagine in end of life situations or with severe head or brain injuries, you don’t’ want the treatment and the care of your loved one dependent on the Intensive Care Unit’s budget, or do you?
- The bed status and the bed situation in the Intensive Care Unit, i.e. will continuing treatment on your critically ill loved one block a bed for other Patients who are in need of a precious and expensive Intensive Care bed and does the Intensive Care team think that other Patients would be more interesting to treat or would they be financially more viable? Again, you don’t want the treatment and the care of your loved one dependent on other admissions need an ICU bed or do you?
- The medical research interests of the Intensive Care team. Medical research is a Multi Million Dollar $$$ per year industry and many Intensive Care Units rely on those revenue and funding streams in order to not only perform medical research on real human beings without often informing vulnerable Patients and their Families and without giving them or their Families a choice. Intensive care units, however rely heavily on those income and funding streams that comes from medical research. Once again, you don’t want the treatment and the care of your loved one being dependent on the Intensive Care team’s medical research interests or do you?
The strict academic view of the Intensive Care team and your views are a clash of two worlds
The reality and the fact of the matter is that by the Intensive Care team’s strict academic view of clinical situations, you and your Family are kept at arm’s length and with this strict academic view the Intensive Care team is consciously or unconsciously trying to position themselves as a superior authority, that always “knows what’s best”! That positioning doesn’t leave any room for you and your Family’s input! In fact the strict academic view of the Intensive Care team is directly targeted at Families of critically ill Patients to not have any PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
It’s the clashing of two worlds! There’s you and your Family anxiously and passively awaiting the news about your critically ill loved one and there is on the other hand the perceived power, the perceived authority from the Intensive Care team that’s cemented by their academic achievements and by their academic expert opinion!
The reality and the fact of the matter is that this academic “expert opinion” is difficult to be challenged if you don’t know what questions you need to ask, if you don’t know what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” and if you are not massively taking action to have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
How can you have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?
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In your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT you’ll learn how to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language so that the doctors and the nurses know straight away that you are an insider and that you know and understand what’s really happening in Intensive Care!
In your FREE report you’ll also discover
- How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
- Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
- How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
- 5 “killer” tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
- You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
- How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
- You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
- How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)
Thank you for tuning into this week’s “BLOG” and I’ll see you again in another update next week!
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This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!
Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel
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