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Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we instantly improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making fast, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In last week’s BLOG I’ve featured another PODCAST with Laura’s inspirational story who’s Dad has been in Intensive Care since March 2014! You can check out last week’s interview “Podcast with Laura who’s father has been in Intensive Care since the 21st March 2014 with a subdural haematoma. He’s not waking up! Listen to Laura’s story!” by clicking on the link here!
In this week’s BLOG I want to show you “The perfect excuse why Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care have no PEACE OF MIND, control, power& influence!”
Having a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care triggers all sorts of feelings, emotions, thoughts, behaviours and also irrational responses from Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care!
Worst of all, Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care tend to be paralysed by fear, frustration, stress and they allow their vulnerability in those circumstances to get overwhelmed and to get bogged down by negative emotions. This is especially important for you to know if your critically ill loved one is in one of the following often “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situations where
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
Those scenarios also get Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care to become cynical, they often lay blame on other people, which more often than not also leads them to be making excuses why Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care can’t have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
The perfect scenario for making excuses is often driven by powerful emotions!
It’s the perfect scenario for why 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care don’t have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence! And the sad reality is that it’s driven by their own insecurity, by their internal and secrets fears, their frustrations and it can also often be driven by guilt and shame.
Those are extremely powerful emotions you and your Family are dealing with and if you and your Family don’t get a different perspective quickly and if you and your Family don’t learn the right tools, arm yourself with the right weapons and get a “BEHIND THE SCENES” view about what’s really happening in Intensive Care, you will be like 99% of Families of critically ill Patients who have no PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence and you will continue making excuses!
Laying blame, being paralysed by fear, handing over and surrendering your level of control, power and influence to the Intensive Care team is the biggest mistake you can ever make and it often is a “good excuse” for Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care! It also aligns well with the strategy of the Intensive Care team who wants you to be passive and not active in this situation!
By you making excuses often aligns well with the Intensive Care team’s agenda!
After all the Intensive Care team has a clear cut agenda to drive that is a direct result of what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care. “BEHIND THE SCENES” is where the Intensive Care team is making decisions, “BEHIND THE SCENES” is where the Intensive Care team positions your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis and prognosis and “BEHIND THE SCENES” is where the Intensive Care team is making decisions about the care and the treatment offered to you and your critically ill loved one!
“BEHIND THE SCENES” also means that every decision the Intensive Care team makes, is driven by the power play, the dynamics, the intrigue, the psychology and most of all by the hidden agendas in Intensive Care!
“BEHIND THE SCENES” also means that the Intensive Care team looks at those things that are sacred to the Intensive Care team and that they would never share with you such as
- The financial viability of your critically ill loved one’s stay in Intensive Care from the Intensive Care team’s perspective, i.e. will they make money or will they lose money
- The bed status and the bed situation in the Intensive Care Unit, i.e. will continuing treatment on your critically ill loved one block a bed for other Patients who are in need of a precious and expensive Intensive Care bed and does the Intensive Care team think that other Patients would be more interesting to treat or would they be financially more viable?
- The medical research interests of the Intensive Care team. Medical research is a Multi Million Dollar $$$ per year industry and many Intensive Care Units rely on those revenue streams in order to not only perform medical research on real human beings without often informing them and without giving them or their Families a choice
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It’s not your fault!
And I know it’s not your fault. You would have never guessed that what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care could be so important for you and your Family to know, because the reality and the fact of the matter is that I didn’t know either when I first started to work in Intensive Care!
However after more than 15 years Intensive Care nursing in three different countries I have gained insights, I have learned lessons and more importantly I have literally looked after thousands of critically ill Patients and their Families and I have hold their hands, I have consoled them and I have guided them through one of the most stressful and sometimes traumatic experiences in their life.
If I have found strategies, you will find strategies too!
I have also looked after many critically ill Patients and their Families who died in Intensive Care and by seeing their heart breaking, it broke my heart too and I knew I had to find a way out of this dilemma, as I knew that if I can’t get it handled when dealing with critical illness, death and end of life that I couldn’t continue working in Intensive Care!
And I did find a way out of the dilemma, by offering real world solutions how to deal with the emotional drama and more importantly how to get PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
The reality and the fact of the matter is that if I have found strategies, coping mechanisms and ways out of dealing with such situations where your critically ill loved one is in a situation where
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
You can find ways out of those dilemmas as well and you can now relax and you can stop doing what 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are doing who are making excuses, who lay blame, who become cynical and who don’t take responsibility for their actions, their thoughts, their feelings and their emotions!
Take responsibility instead and get an unfair advantage!
By you stopping to make excuses, by you taking responsibility for every thought you think, every action you take, every word you say to the Intensive care team, every word you don’t say to the Intensive Care team will automatically assume PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
By you and your Family stopping to make excuses why you can’t have PEACE OF MIND, why you can’t have control, why you can’t have power and why you can’t have influence and by you and your Family learning what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” and therefore counteracting the Intensive Care team’s perceived authority and perceived power you will automatically assume PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
When you and your Family stop making excuses why you can’t have PEACE OF MIND, why you can’t have control, why you can’t have power and why you can’t have influence you are getting an unfair advantage and you have armed yourself with weapons that will clearly make you superior to 99% of the Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who continue to make excuses, who continue to lay blame on other people and who continue to chose not to assume PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
You and your Family however have made a conscious choice! You know that PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence are within your reach, if you only learned the right things and if you only learned what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care so that you can position yourself powerfully and so that you can ask the right questions so that the Intensive Care team knows that you are asking “insider” questions that will automatically pushback on the Intensive Care team’s perceived authority, which is an authority that Intensive Care team’s have relied upon since Intensive Care came on as a speciality in the medical field in the 1960’s and 1970’s. It’s also an authority that has more or less been unquestioned so far, because Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, once again have been too busy making excuses rather than taking action!
How can you have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?
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In your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT you’ll learn how to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language so that the doctors and the nurses know straight away that you are an insider and that you know and understand what’s really happening in Intensive Care!
In your FREE report you’ll also discover
- How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
- Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
- How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
- 5 “killer” tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
- You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
- How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
- You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
- How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)
Thank you for tuning into this week’s “BLOG” and I’ll see you again in another update next week!
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This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!
Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel