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Quick Tip for Families in Intensive Care: My Mother Was Coerced to Have Life Support Withdrawn in ICU and Died. Was it Preventable?

“I wish I had found your YouTube channel and intensivecarehotline.com website 2 months ago. I knew something was seriously wrong with the way doctors and nurses were acting. I was desperately searching YouTube and Google to learn if the ICU was allowed to coerce families into withdrawing life support and the ventilator. It makes me sick to my stomach what the hospital and the ICU did to my mother. It felt like she was part of an experiment where they withdraw the maximum amount of money from insurance before they pressured me and my family into withdrawing the ventilator and life support.

Signed by MK.”

My name is Patrik Hutzel from intensivecarehotline.com, and this is another quick tip for families in intensive care.

So let’s look at MK’s email in more detail and MK your words carry deep pain, and they’re heartbreakingly familiar to many families who’ve faced similar situations. You’re not alone in sensing that something was very wrong here. The lack of transparency, the pressure to make irreversible decisions, and the feeling that financial incentives might be at play. These are all red flags, and you were right to question them. However, I also say something that might offend some people here, but you also need to hear the truth, and I don’t care because I speak truth here. It is their own fault.

We have helped so many families in intensive care over the years to save their loved ones’ lives in similar situations with our consulting and advocacy. All the information is there. It’s on our website. It’s on my YouTube channel, all the information is there and one thing that I always say is, you need to take 100% responsibilities for outcomes. 90% of intensive care patients approximately survive. That’s 9 out of 10 surviving. Why would your mother be the 1 out of 10 not surviving? It doesn’t make sense.

The clients that work with us take full responsibility. We advise them, we help them, we hold them by the hand, of course. We implement some of the strategies ourselves, but at the end of the day, it is up to you to implement them. And we’ve never really had not any success. We’ve always had success in that realm, and you can verify that on our testimonial section at intensivecarehotline.com. You can verify it on our intensivecarehotline.com podcast section.

I know it sounds brutal when I’m saying, it’s your own fault, but it is. And that’s the reality because I live from a standpoint of, I take full responsibility for my own life, and that includes my family as well, and you should do the same. You should live with that credo. And if you’re intimidated by intensive care teams, then you need to wonder why. You have no reason to be intimidated by intensive care teams. And if you think they can just do whatever they want, think again, because they can’t.

End of life does not happen in a vacuum. Imagine end of life would always happen in a vacuum. The world would be mayhem! The world would be absolutely mayhem. ICUs are supposed to uphold the highest ethical and medical standards, but unfortunately, in some cases, or I would argue in many cases even, families are steered into decisions that don’t fully reflect their loved one’s potential for recovery or their own values and wishes.

Now, always come back to your own values and wishes, and don’t budge on them. It’s as simple as that. A lot of families overthink, they overcomplicate, they believe all the rubbish from ICU teams where they say, oh, your loved one shouldn’t live. If they do survive, they won’t have any quality of life. They tell them that they won’t survive. Once again, 90% of intensive care patients survive, approximately. It depends a little bit on the statistics. 70 to 90% depends a little bit on the country, but the vast majority of critically ill patients actually do survive.

The good news is you continued searching, questioning, and fighting for your mum. Means that in your mind, you’ve done everything that you could at the time, but you deserve better support, honesty, compassion, certainly not pressure and manipulation. What you deserve is, solutions which we would have given you here at intensivecarehotline.com proven steps, proven solutions because we’ve done it over and over and over again. I’ve said to families, if we can’t help you save your loved one’s life, you get your money back. I’ve given them a money back return guarantee for the services that we provide because that’s how confident I feel that we can turn these situations around every single time, as long as you follow advice and as long as you don’t get brainwashed by intensive care teams.

Like I said, I would never guarantee that I can save a life as such. However, we have saved many lives. Some patients in intensive care do not survive, but the overwhelming majority is actually surviving. And to have intensive care teams tell you tomorrow at 3 o’clock, we’re going to withdraw life support, that is like an execution. And that is just plain wrong. It’s illegal. One might say it’s euthanasia, one might say it’s murder, one might say it’s homicide. It doesn’t matter. It’s illegal.

And we’ve proven that over and over and over again. Never ever let common sense or your intuition stop you from doing what you know is right. And I think that’s what you’ve done in this situation. You’ve gone against your own intuition, and you haven’t stopped them. And that’s something you need to live with for the rest of your days. I can’t help you with that because all the information is here at intensivecarehotline.com, on my YouTube channel. If you think I’m full of crap, that’s fine. But I have the receipts to show in this situation, including on our testimony section at intensivecarehotline.com. And I have the testimony show on our intensivecarehotline.com podcast where we’ve interviewed clients. And that gives you the proof that we’ve helped save many lives for our clients in intensive care.

And like I said, I have worked in critical care and nursing for over 25 years in 3 different countries where I worked as a nurse unit manager for over 5 years in intensive care. And I’ve been consulting and advocating for families in intensive care here since 2013 here at intensivecarehotline.com. I can very, very, very confidently say that we have saved many lives for our clients and their families. Like I said, it’s all documented on our testimonial section and on our intensivecarehotline.com podcast section where we’ve done client interviews.

Because our advice is absolutely life changing. Absolutely life changing. We know how to manage intensive care teams, whereas most families don’t even know that’s an option because we help families in intensive care to improve their lives instantly, so they can make informed decisions, have peace of mind, control, power, and influence, making sure their loved ones get getting best care and treatment always.

That’s why I do one-on-one consulting and advocacy over the phone, Zoom, WhatsApp, whichever medium works best for you. I talk to you and your families directly. I hand hold you through this once in-a lifetime situation that you simply and clearly cannot afford to get wrong. I also talked to doctors and nurses directly with you on your behalf. I set you up with the right questions to ask, and you would change the shifting dynamics in your favor very, very quickly, because I ask all the questions that you haven’t even considered asking, but must be asked when you have a loved one critically ill in intensive care. I also represent you in family meetings with intensive care teams.

We also do medical record reviews in real time, so that you can get a second opinion in real time. We also do medical record reviews after intensive care, if you have unanswered questions, if you need closure, or if you are suspecting medical negligence.

We also have a membership for families of critically ill patients in intensive care. You can become a member if you go to intensivecarehotline.com. Click on the membership link or go to intensivecaresupport.org directly. In the membership, you have access to me and my team 24 hours a day in the membership area and via email, and we answer all questions intensive care related. In the membership, you also have exclusive access to 21 eBooks and 21 videos that I’ve personally written and recorded, and all of that will help you to make informed decisions, have peace of mind, control, power, and influence making sure your loved one gets best care and treatment, always something that most families in intensive care meets.

And all of that you get at intensivecarehotline.com. Call us on one of the numbers on the top of our website, or simply send us an email to [email protected] with your questions.

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Thank you so much for watching.

This is Patrik Hutzel from intensivecarehotline.com and I will talk to you in a few days.

Take care for now.

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