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Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we instantly improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making FAST, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In last week’s BLOG I’ve shown you “The 5 QUESTIONS you need to ask, if the Intensive Care team wants you to DONATE your loved one’s ORGANS in an END OF LIFE SITUATION!”
You can check out last week’s BLOG here!
In this week’s BLOG I want to show you
“The 3 DISTINCT reasons the Intensive Care team doesn’t want you to QUESTION their approach or have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!”
You’ve got a big problem and you know it!
You know by now that you’ve got a problem. You know by now that if your critically ill loved one is in Intensive Care with a critical illness and is either
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
you know that you have a serious issue at hand and you know that PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in such situations are hard to come by.
Stress, overwhelm, vulnerability and challenge leave you without PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence
In fact 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care have no PEACE OF MIND, no control, no power and no influence during this “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situation when their loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!
Those Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care tend be so stressed, overwhelmed, challenged, frustrated, paralysed by fear, vulnerable and out of their comfort zone that they are literally running around like “headless” chickens so to speak.
And even worse, their poor body language– implicitly or explicitly- is telling everyone around them, including the Intensive Care team, that they have no PEACE OF MIND, no control, no power and no influence!
Those Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care don’t even know that PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence is something they can achieve, if you know what to do, if you know what questions you need to ask and if you know how to position yourself and your critically ill loved one during this challenging and “ONCE IN A LIFETIME”situation!
And you might say, “Patrik, I have no idea how to position myself, I have no idea where to start and I have no idea how I can get PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!”
And the reality and the fact of the matter is that it’s totally possible to get there so that you can turn things around in your favour!
The Intensive Care team doesn’t want you to have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
Even though, even though the Intensive Care team doesn’t want you to have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
That’s the last thing they want to have happen and having said that the Intensive Care team is so used to be running the show, to drive the bus so to speak and they tend to be so busy in driving their mainly hidden agenda whilst you are busy worrying and fearing for the very life and the very well being of your critically ill loved one!
As a matter of fact, if I have learned one thing in more than 15 years Intensive Care nursing in three different countries, where I literally worked with thousands of critically ill Patients and their Families, it’s that if a Family had PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence, the Intensive Care team didn’t like it.
The Intensive Care team doesn’t want Families of critically ill Patients to have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence, because the Intensive Care team then perceives you and your Family as “difficult” or “demanding”!
And that’s good news, if the Intensive Care team perceives you and your Family as “difficult” or “demanding” you are on the right track!
Don’t put the Intensive Care team on a pedestal and don’t “suck up” to them!
The other 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are busy “sucking up” to the Intensive Care team and putting them on a pedestal. The result? No PEACE OF MIND, no control, no power and no influence!
However, the truth of the matter is that once you and your Family are on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence, especially if your loved one is in one of those challenging, difficult, demanding and ”ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situations, where
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
that’s exactly where the “rubber hits the road” so to speak, because from the Intensive Care team’s perspective there is far more at stake during those difficult, challenging, demanding and often heartbreaking situations than “just” the life or the well being of your critically ill loved one and that’s exactly why the Intensive Care team doesn’t want you to have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
“BEHIND THE SCENES” is where decisions are being made!
Once you and your Family understand what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care, once you and your Family understand the politics, the dynamics, the power play, the intrigue, the psychology and most of all the hidden agendas in Intensive Care, that’s when you will have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
Once you and your Family know and understand that what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care impacts on the positioning of your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis and prognosis by the Intensive Care team and once you understand that what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” can impact on the care and treatment offered or not offered for your critically ill loved one that’s when you will have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
In fact there are three distinct reasons why the Intensive Care team doesn’t want you to have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence, during those difficult, challenging and heartbreaking situations!
Let’s shed some light on it!
1. The Intensive Care team’s/ unit’s financial interests
Let’s face it. Intensive Care is a multi $$$ Billion Dollar industry per year. If your critically ill loved one is in one of those difficult and challenging situations that could cost a lot of money with no guaranteed outcome, the Intensive Care team will be doing the maths.
The truth of the matter is that if the Intensive Care team perceives your loved one’s treatment and stay in Intensive Care as too costly or if they think they are not making any money, the Intensive Care team’s calculations will inevitably impact on the Intensive Care team’s positioning of your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis and prognosis and also on the care and treatment offered or not offered.
Your job is to be aware that the Intensive Care team is counting Dollars $$$ and if you can’t read the signs and the writing on the wall and if you don’t question you will have no PEACE OF MIND, no control, no power and no influence!
2.Bed occupancy and other Patients waiting for Intensive Care beds
This is another big one and one that escapes Families of critically ill Patients as well! If your critically ill loved one is in a difficult, dire, challenging and heartbreaking situation and the Intensive Care team knows that they have other Patients waiting for scarce, precious and expensive Intensive Care beds and the Intensive Care team also thinks that your loved one might “block a bed” for a long time to come, the Intensive Care team once again, may “adjust” your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis and prognosis and may also adjust the care and treatment for your critically ill loved one, according to their priorities.
Their priorities might change at any given time because they perceive other admissions to Intensive Care as “more interesting”, more financially viable and therefore the minute the Intensive Care team suggests a “WITHDRAWAL”or a “LIMITATION OF TREATMENT” as being in “the best interest” of your critically ill loved one, you always need to question their approach! Because the very reason for this approach could be bed and financial pressures!
ICU beds are in high demand and often ICU’s can’t cope with this high demand!
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3. Medical research interests
If I had a Dollar $$$ for every Patient in Intensive Care who is enrolled in a medical research study without their knowledge, without them or their Families being informed and without giving their or their Family’s consent I would be a Millionaire.
The fact of the matter is that Intensive Care Units heavily rely on funding from Universities or even government organisations to conduct medical research on real human beings!
Therefore, the interests in Intensive Care besides treating critical illness are huge and once again, Intensive Care Units rely heavily on 5, 6 or even 7 figure Dollar $$$ funding per year in order to do medical research on real human beings!
The truth of the matter is that if your critically ill loved one doesn’t fall into a research category and is very sick, the Intensive Care team might once again suggest a “withdrawal”or a “limitation of treatment” as being in “the best interest” of your critically ill loved one, you need to ask the Intensive Care team whether they are not trying hard enough, because they have other competing interests.
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The same applies if your critically ill loved one is inevitably dying in Intensive Care, because the Intensive Care team might give you false hope for a “recovery” of your loved one and they want to continue treatment until they finished performing their medical research only to prolong your critically ill loved one’s suffering unnecessarily and you may find that the end of life of your loved one is all but dignified.
The bottom line is that you and your Family need to be on high alert and you can’t really afford not paying any attention and you can’t really afford not having PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence during this “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situation!
How can you have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?
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In your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT you’ll learn how to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language so that the doctors and the nurses know straight away that you are an insider and that you know and understand what’s really happening in Intensive Care!
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- How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
- Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
- How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
- 5 “killer” tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
- You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
- How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
- You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
- How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)
Thank you for tuning into this week’s “BLOG” and I’ll see you again in another update next week!
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This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!
Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel
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