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Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM  , where we instantly improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making fast, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!

In last week’s BLOG I’ve shown you

How to take control if your loved one has a severe brain injury and is critically ill in Intensive Care

You can check out last week’s blog by clicking on the link here!
In this week’s blog I want to show you

“THE 3 MOST DANGEROUS MISTAKES THAT YOU ARE MAKING BUT YOU ARE UNAWARE OF, IF YOUR LOVED ONE IS A CRITICALLY ILL PATIENT IN INTENSIVE CARE!”

 

By you making those mistakes and worse, being unaware that you are making them, you’ll have no control, no power and you will be unable to influence any decision making whatsoever, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!

Get this one wrong and you’ll lose control fast, during a time where your critically ill loved one and your Family needs you the most!(it is hard to ask the right questions, without the ‘behind the scenes’ insights)

If your loved one has been admitted to Intensive Care because he or she is critically ill, not only is your critically ill loved one in a danger zone, but you and your Family are most likely in danger zone as well!

The bad news is that you don’t know what you don’t know and that you are in danger zone and whilst you and your Family blindly trust in the care that your critically ill loved one is receiving in Intensive Care you are
A) Unaware of the mistakes that you and your Family are making that hold you back from having control, real power and therefore influence decision making
B) Unaware of the moving parts and the politics “behind the scenes” in a busy, highly institutional and highly political area that is Intensive Care! Because Intensive Care is such a highly institutional and highly political place, it directly impacts on the care your critically ill loved one is receiving or not receiving

Look, if your loved one is in Intensive Care, you really must know a few things for your own reality check. It’s easy to lose sight of things and get caught up in the emotion, the overwhelm, the pain, the frustration, the helplessness and the powerlessness that go hand in hand with your critically ill loved one being admitted to Intensive Care!

Furthermore, there are things that most Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are doing that directly go hand in hand with you having no control, no power and you are therefore unable to influence any decision making and the life and health of your critically ill loved one are completely in the hands of the doctors and nurses in Intensive Care.

Recommended resources:

• THE 10 THINGS YOU DIDN’T KNOW ARE HAPPENING BEHIND THE SCENES IN INTENSIVE CARE THAT HOLD YOU BACK FROM HAVING PEACE OF MIND, CONTROL, POWER AND INFLUENCE, WHILST YOUR LOVED ONE IS CRITICALLY ILL IN INTENSIVE CARE!

• THE 10 THINGS YOU DIDN’T KNOW DOCTORS AND NURSES ARE TALKING ABOUT IF YOUR LOVED ONE IS CRITICALLY ILL IN INTENSIVE CARE, WHEN YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ARE NOT PRESENT AT THE BEDSIDE!

Most Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care from all walks of life make the same following three mistakes and they make them over and over again, without doing the crucial “reality check”, whether it is the right thing to do. I have seen this and I still see this over and over again in more than 15 years of Intensive Care nursing that Families

1) Spend day and night in Intensive Care without having a break and they therefore lose power and steam fast
2) They are not asking the right questions and they therefore are also not making up their own mind and trust the Intensive Care team blindly
3) Family members of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care panic

In order for you to regain power, control and also for you being able to influence decision making whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care, you must first of all stop making those mistakes and you must learn to do the right things so that you have control, power, so that you can influence decision making, because otherwise the Intensive Care team will hold all the power in their hand and you will only hear a one sided story and the Intensive Care team will keep you “at arms length”!
Let’s quickly look at the 3 mistakes that you are probably making, how you can become aware that you are making them and what you need to do instead!

1) You are spending day and night in Intensive Care with your critically ill loved one, only to find that you are running out of steam, energy and stamina fast.
Keep in mind that physical presence doesn’t equal emotional presence or if I may say it differently, quantity time, doesn’t equal quality time.

It’s absolutely critical that you look after yourself during this difficult time. You and your needs need to be taken care of first! If you are not looking after yourself, your loved one can feel your negative vibes and if you are taken care of well, your loved one can feel your positive vibes! Intensive Care is a stressful, busy and emotionally draining place and you want to make sure that if you are visiting your critically ill loved one that you are in the best possible state to do so!
Always remember, the Intensive Care Unit is only a phone call away and you can always ring if you are worried!

By you feeling well rested and by you feeling well, you directly increased your chances to have more control, have more power so that you can directly influence decisions, whilst your loved one is in Intensive Care so that you don’t need to feel at the mercy of the Intensive Care team

2) You are not asking the right questions and you are therefore not making up your own mind and you trust the Intensive Care team blindly!
This is another big mistake I see Families in Intensive Care making all the time! As I said before, Intensive Care is a big machinery with a lot of moving parts in a highly institutionalized environment that is highly political and depending on what’s happening behind the scenes so to speak, the Intensive Care team may position your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis in a way that suits the Intensive Care team, but that doesn’t necessarily suit you, your Family and your Critically ill loved one.

Let’s just say that your critically ill loved one has a severe head or brain injury and he or she is expected to go through a lengthy stay in ICU to recover and the Intensive Care Unit doesn’t have the resources or doesn’t want to invest the resources to go through a lengthy recovery with an uncertain outcome, they will most likely paint a bleak picture for you and for your family.

Outlooks and prognosis can also heavily depend on a positive or a negative culture in an Intensive Care Unit. I have written a blog post about culture in Intensive Care and how it impacts on Patient care

Related article

• What the doctors and the nurses behaviour in Intensive Care is telling you about the culture in a unit

3) Family members of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care panic
Because Intensive Care is such a frightening and challenging place, most Families of critically ill Patients panic as soon as their loved one has been admitted to Intensive Care. But know this: Try not to panic.

I know this is easier said than done, however like in many other situations of crisis that you have been thrown into, panicking only makes the situation worse.

Have trust and confidence in yourself and you’ll get through this difficult situation just fine and as a by-product you will have control, power and influence!

But if you continue to make those three most common mistakes whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care, you are handing over your power on a platter!
Also for more in depth insight on this topic, we have a tailor made report and video for you

”Follow this proven system to avoid the 3 most dangerous mistakes that you are making but you are unaware of, if your loved one is a critically ill Patient in Intensive Care”
Avoid these mistakes and you can exercise more control, more power and gain influence fast, in an environment where other people are in control.

 

How can you get PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence fast, while your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?

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Your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” Report gives you in-depth insight that you must know whilst your loved one is critically ill or is even dying in Intensive Care! Sign up and download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT now by entering your email below!

In your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT you’ll learn how to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language so that the doctors and the nurses know straight away that you are an insider and that you know and understand what’s really happening in Intensive Care!

In your FREE report you’ll also discover

• How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
• Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
• How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
• 5 “killer” tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
• You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
• How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
• You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
• How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)

Thank you for tuning into this week’s “BLOG” and I’ll see you again in another update next week!

Make sure you also check out our “YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED” section where we answer your questions or send me an email to [email protected] with your questions!

Also check out our Products section where you get more Ebooks, Videos and Audio recordings and where you can also get 1:1 consulting with me!

This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!

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Patrik Hutzel

   

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