HOW TO STOP BEING HELD HOSTAGE BY THE INTENSIVE CARE TEAM if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!

Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we INSTANTLY improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making FAST, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!

In last week’s BLOG I shared with you

“HOW TO CONTROL YOUR POSITIVE SELF- IMAGE whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!”

You can check out last week’s BLOG by clicking on the link here.

In this week’s BLOG I want to teach you

How to stop being held hostage by the Intensive Care team if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!

If your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care and if your loved one is facing one of those challenging, difficult and heartbreaking situations where they are either

very unstable and in a very critical condition

in a life threatening situation

in Intensive Care for long-term treatments and long-term stays

having a severe(traumatic) head or brain injury

threatened with an “NFR”(Not for resuscitation) or “DNR”(Do not resuscitate) order

In a situation where the Intensive Care team suggests a “withdrawal of treatment” or a “limitation of treatment” as being “in the best interest” of your critically ill loved one

approaching their end of life in Intensive Care

the tension tends to be extremely high!

The tension is palpable and more often than not, Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care in those situations feel like they are held hostage in a situation that they wish they’d rather never encountered in the first place.

But let’s face it, given that you are here, you are most likely in this “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situation!

The Intensive Care team is used to “calling the shots”

More often than not Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care feel like they are held hostage by the Intensive Care team, because after all, the Intensive Care team is “calling the shots” so to speak, the Intensive Care team is driving the bus and the Intensive Care team, with their positioning as the “perceived power” and the “perceived authority” is more or less driving their agenda in those situations!

If Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care don’t feel like they are held hostage by the Intensive Care team in those situations, then they certainly haven’t fully embraced what they are dealing with, they haven’t fully embraced what is at stake and they haven’t fully embraced that there are far too many wheels in motion “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care that impacts on how the Intensive Care team positions your critically ill loved one’s prognosis and diagnosis!

Let’s look at a real world example

Now, let’s say that your critically ill loved one has been admitted to Intensive Care after they had a cardiac arrest while they were playing golf or while they were out shopping.

Your critically ill loved one is 75 years of age and generally speaking has been enjoying a good quality of life until now.

Your critically ill loved one has been placed on a ventilator and in an induced coma for at least the next 24-28 hours to minimise body functions and to therefore increase and maximise chances of recovery.

When your critically ill loved one’s heart stopped, thankfully some bystanders commenced CPR (Cardiopulmonary resuscitation) immediately, but nobody really knows how effective this CPR was until the ambulance arrived.

The paramedics continued CPR at the scene and they also found that your critically ill loved one had no heart rhythm when they first arrived after about 10-15 minutes after the alarm was raised.

After continuing CPR, the paramedics eventually got your critically ill loved one’s heart rhythm back and they then transferred them to Intensive Care.

After you received the unexpected phone call from the Intensive Care Unit you and your other family members have rushed to the hospital to see your critically ill loved one in the induced coma.

You and your family feel extremely stressed, overwhelmed, frightened, scared, vulnerable and worst of all you feel a loss of control.

A few hours into the ordeal, the Intensive Care team wants to meet with you and you and your family are now sitting in the Intensive Care meeting room with a senior doctor, a junior doctor and the bedside nurse being present.

The most senior Intensive Care doctor opens the meeting by summarising that your critically ill loved one has had a major heart attack. This has been confirmed in various tests, including ECG’s, blood tests and ultrasound. Your critically ill loved one is currently too unstable to have an angiogram to have an even closer look at the heart to find out what exactly may have caused the cardiac arrest.

The most senior consultant also highlights that the prolonged CPR given by bystanders may not have been effective and that therefore brain damage can not be ruled out due to lack of oxygen to the brain.

Overall, the most senior doctor in the room is painting a “doom and gloom” and rather negative picture of the situation that your critically ill loved one is in.

He also mentions that further testing may be done, however he is also mentioning that your critically ill loved one is “quite old” and that it’s most likely that they wouldn’t have any quality of life to go back to after such a massive event!

He also goes on to say that further testing may not be “IN THE BEST INTEREST” of your critically ill loved one, as he once again highlights his opinion that your critically ill loved one is “quite old” and most likely wouldn’t enjoy the quality of life they had before the cardiac arrest.

The most senior doctor then asks you and your family whether you are understanding the situation and whether you have any questions.

In the meantime, you and your family are sobbing uncontrollably.

A few hours ago, you, your family and your critically ill loved one enjoyed life and now the situation has changed dramatically without any warning!

You feel like the world is tumbling down on you.

You also feel like you have been presented with cold hard facts, without you actually having the opportunity to have your say!

Let’s zoom out of this fictional conversation and let’s take a breather for a minute.

What has happened?

Your critically ill loved one is in Intensive Care after cardiac arrest. They are very sick and their fate and destiny at this point is unknown.

The Intensive Care team has “framed” the situation that supports their hidden agenda

The Intensive Care team has been framing your critically ill loved one’s situation as very negative and they have been painting a “doom and gloom” scenario.

They have positioned your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis and prognosis in a way that sets low expectations.

The Intensive Care team has positioned themselves so that anything from now on may appear as a benefit and most importantly they have positioned your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis and prognosis in a light that will support the Intensive Care team’s mainly hidden agenda!

This mainly hidden agenda of the Intensive Care team when it comes to critically ill Patients in Intensive Care being either

very unstable and in a very critical condition

in a life threatening situation

in Intensive Care for long-term treatments and long-term stays

having a severe(traumatic) head or brain injury

threatened with an “NFR”(Not for resuscitation) or “DNR”(Do not resuscitate) order

In a situation where the Intensive Care team suggests a “withdrawal of treatment” or a “limitation of treatment” as being “in the best interest” of your critically ill loved one

approaching their end of life in Intensive Care

generally speaking supports the interests of the Intensive Care team, irrespective of the challenges, difficulties and heartbreak you, your family and your critically ill loved one are facing!

The Intensive Care team is protecting their own turf first and foremost

The Intensive Care team will always protect their own turf first and foremost and that means that the Intensive Care team will look at

their financial and monetary interests $$$ if and when treating your critically ill loved one

the bed situation in Intensive Care, i.e. are they under pressure to admit other critically ill Patients into scarce, expensive and precious Intensive Care beds

their medical research interests, i.e. will treating your critically ill loved one to the best of their abilities support their medical research interests and therefore generate multi-million dollar $$$ per year funding or is it in the Intensive Care team’s interest to shrewdly and adeptly “sell” you on a “withdrawal of treatment” as being “in the best interest” of your critically ill loved one, because continuing treatment on your critically ill loved one doesn’t support their medical research interests?

the politics, the dynamics, the competing interests, the power play and power struggles, the intrigue and the psychology in Intensive Care

resources allocated to other critically ill Patients and whether there are enough resources to give your critically ill loved one the best care and treatment

The Intensive Care team is literally holding you hostage by their positioning

Therefore, if you and your family are unaware of the dynamics, the psychology, the competing interests, the power play and power struggles, the dynamics, the intrigue and most of all what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care, the Intensive Care team will literally hold you, your family and your critically ill loved one hostage.

The minute you and your family know and understand that what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care is way more powerful than anything else that is happening in Intensive Care, that’s the minute when you will separate yourself from the 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have no PEACE OF MIND, no control, no power and no influence!

The minute you and your family understand that you need to take responsibility for the outcomes you are going to get when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care and the minute you understand that it’s not what’s happening to you and your family, but that it’s how you react to what’s happening to you, to your family and to your critically ill loved one, that’s the minute when you will have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!

How can you have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?

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In your FREE report you’ll also discover

How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
5 “killer” tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)

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Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel