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Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we INSTANTLY improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making FAST, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In last week’s BLOG you’ve discovered
“The 5 ways how resilient Families in Intensive Care stand back up when life knocks them down”
You can check out last week’s BLOG by clicking on the link here.
In this week’s BLOG I want to share with you
“HOW TO STAY STRONG WHILST YOUR LOVED ONE IS CRITICALLY ILL IN INTENSIVE CARE!”
Staying strong is one of those golden nuggets, it’s a skill, it’s a quality that Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care desperately need when one of their loved ones has been admitted to Intensive Care!
And staying strong is what many Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are doggedly determined to be, to only find that if their critically ill loved one is either
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
that STAYING STRONG during this “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situation is easier said than done!
And the truth and the fact of the matter is that the 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have no PEACE OF MIND, who have no power, no control and no influence, consciously or unconsciously decide to give in to the “perceived power” and the “perceived authority” of the Intensive Care team and therefore also consciously or unconsciously decide to stay weak!
Therefore more often than not STAYING STRONG has given way to the agenda of the Intensive Care team and most Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are only passive bystanders and they have things happen to them rather being a master of their own destiny!
STAYING STRONG when having a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care is not easy, because you and your family are facing your worst nightmares!
STAYING STRONG when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care is something you can achieve, however you need to start going against the grain, you probably need to do some counterintuitive moves and you need to do what the 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have no PEACE OF MIND, no power, no control and no influence are not doing!
The Intensive Care team knows what to say, when to say it and how to say it for their maximum gain!
STAYING STRONG when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care and when the Intensive Care team has laid down the train tracks and knows what to say, when to say and how to say it, even if or I shall say especially if your loved one is
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
can be a daunting challenge, however you can STAY STRONG if you are laying down your own train tracks, if you are not intimidated by the “perceived power” and by the “perceived authority” of the Intensive Care team!
STAYING STRONG in the face of adversity
STAYING STRONG in the face of adversity, STAYING STRONG when your body language screams of your insecurities, your fears, your frustrations, your pain and your vulnerability and STAYING STRONG when life has knocked you down is a skill that you can quickly develop!
STAYING STRONG when the tone of your voice is closer to crying and closer to a nervous breakdown than having composure and strength is a skill that is not optional and it’s a skill that you can develop and master!
Now, I can tell you that after more than 15 years Intensive Care nursing in three different countries and after I have worked with literally THOUSANDS of critically ill Patients and their Families, STAYING STRONG starts with having the awareness that 99% of families in Intensive Care have no PEACE OF MIND, no control, no power and no influence!
STAYING STRONG starts with you having the guts, the believe, the courage and the faith that you can be a master of your own destiny!
STAYING STRONG starts with you looking around you and look at what everybody else is doing and doing the complete opposite.(Remember 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care have no PEACE OF MIND, no control, no power and no influence and by no means do you want to copy or model what they are doing!)
STAYING STRONG starts with you having an awareness that your body language sucks and that the minute you enter the Intensive Care Unit everybody can see that your back is hunched, that your shoulders are pulled inwards rather than outwards, that you avoid strong eye contact, that your head is down and that your handshake is weak!
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Your job is to be a master of your own destiny and therefore you need to take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for what is happening from now on!
STAYING STRONG starts with you taking full responsibility for what is happening from now on!
STAYING STRONG starts with you questioning the Intensive Care team and to look “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care
STAYING STRONG starts with you developing the awareness that the Intensive Care team’s agenda is mainly driven by their financial interests($$$), their budget targets($$$), their bed management pressures, the politics, the dynamics, the competing interests, the power play, the intrigue and the psychology at play in an Intensive Care Unit.
STAYING STRONG also includes developing the awareness that the Intensive Care team has medical research interests, and that medical research is performed on real critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, often without you and your critically ill loved one knowing about it, let alone you or your critically ill loved one having given written or verbal consent to it!
STAYING STRONG means that you need to know that the positioning of your critically ill loved one’s prognosis and diagnosis by the Intensive Care team often goes way beyond your critically ill loved one’s prognosis and diagnosis!
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STAYING STRONG means that you and your family need to know and understand that Intensive Care is a multi- Billion Dollar $$$ per year industry in this day and age and the sheer amount of dollars(Pounds) that is exchanging hands opens the doors for all sorts of ethical and moral issues and dilemmas!
Throwing out all of your preconceived ideas about Intensive Care is critical!
STAYING STRONG when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care means that you need to throw away all of your preconceived ideas about Intensive Care!
STAYING STRONG when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care means that you and your family need to make up your own mind, irrespective of what the Intensive Care team is telling you!
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STAYING STRONG means that you and your family should not buy into the “doom and gloom” picture that the Intensive Care team may have painted!
STAYING STRONG means that you need to have your own agenda, your own goals and outcomes that you want to achieve for your critically ill loved one, irrespective of what the Intensive Care team is telling you!
STAYING STRONG means that whenever you and your Family are asked to have a “formal” Family meeting with the Intensive Care team that you have strong positioning, mental clarity and that you pursue your own agenda, rather than buy into the “doom and gloom” of the Intensive Care team!
STAYING STRONG means that whatever the Intensive Care team is telling you when your critically ill loved one is either
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
that you leave no stone unturned and that you have the strength, the determination, the power, the control and the influence that will ultimately lead you to have PEACE OF MIND!
How can you do that, how can you leave no stone unturned and how can you QUICKLY get PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?
You get to that all important feeling of PEACE OF MIND, CONTROL, POWER AND INFLUENCE when you download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” report NOW by entering your email below!
In Your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” report you’ll learn quickly how to get PEACE OF MIND, real power and real control and how you can influence decision making fast, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care! Your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” Report gives you in-depth insight that you must know whilst your loved one is critically ill or is even dying in Intensive Care! Sign up and download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT now by entering your email below!
In your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT you’ll learn how to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language so that the doctors and the nurses know straight away that you are an insider and that you know and understand what’s really happening in Intensive Care!
In your FREE report you’ll also discover
- How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
- Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
- How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
- 5 “killer” tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
- You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
- How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
- You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
- How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)
Thank you for tuning into this week’s “BLOG” and I’ll see you again in another update next week!
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This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!
Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel