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Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we INSTANTLY improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making FAST, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!

In last week’s BLOG I’ve shown you “A FIVE step BLUEPRINT for DYING well and with DIGNITY in Intensive Care”

You can check out last week’s blog here!

In this week’s BLOG I want to show you

“How to REPROGRAM YOUR MIND if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!”

One of the biggest life lessons for me was that a mentor once told me that

IF YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING WORTHWHILE IN LIFE, YOU NEED TO LOOK AT WHAT EVERYBODY ELSE IS DOING AND YOU NEED TO DO THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE!

If running with the herd is your thing, then you might want to pause for a second and think twice.

This is what I had to do when I first heard this:

IF YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING WORTHWHILE IN LIFE, YOU NEED TO LOOK AT WHAT EVERYBODY ELSE IS DOING AND YOU NEED TO DO THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE!

In fact, this was such a strong statement when I first heard about it from my mentor and it never even occurred to me remotely that one of the reasons I haven’t gotten the results in life that I wanted for myself was because I was stuck in mediocrity and I was stuck with looking what everybody else was doing and mistakenly copying what they were doing.

If you look at what everybody else is doing you get no or average results

That’s why I only got average results, whether it was on a personal or professional level!

I only achieved my goals on a personal and professional level when I did indeed go against the grain and did the complete opposite from what everybody else was doing!

How does that translate to your situation when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?

Well, if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care and is in one of the following difficult and challenging situations where they are

• very unstable and in a very critical condition

• in a life threatening situation

• in Intensive Care for long-term treatments and long-term stays

• having a severe(traumatic) head or brain injury

• threatened with an “NFR”(Not for resuscitation) or “DNR”(Do not resuscitate) order

• In a situation where the Intensive Care team suggests a “withdrawal of treatment” or a “limitation of treatment” as being “in the best interest” of your critically ill loved one

• approaching their end of life in Intensive Care

I bet that you and your Family are way outside of your comfort zone.

I bet that you and your Family have sleepless nights, I bet that you and your Family feel stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, frustrated, you are on an emotional roller coaster and you feel extremely vulnerable.

And look, I can empathise with how you feel! After having worked as an Intensive Care Nurse for more than 15 years in three different countries and after I have worked with literally thousands of critically ill Patients and their Families and guided them through the difficult, heartbreaking and challenging situations they have found themselves in.

I know that it’s not easy and I know that it’s difficult and I also know that you have few or no role models how you can successfully master this challenge and difficult situation!

Your priority in this situation that you have found yourself in is to have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!

Why do 99% of Families of critically ill Patients have no PEACE OF MIND, no control, no power and no influence?

And look, if you are sitting in the waiting room in an Intensive Care Unit and in this waiting room you see the sorrow, the pain, the frustration and the overwhelm that other Families of critically ill Patients are experiencing you also know by either talking to them or by just looking at them that they have no PEACE OF MIND, they have no power, they have no control and they have no influence!

They just sit there passively waiting for any news from the Intensive Care team and they sit there drowning in sorrow rather than being pro- active!

Remember what I said before?

IF YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING WORTHWHILE IN LIFE, YOU NEED TO LOOK AT WHAT EVERYBODY ELSE IS DOING AND YOU NEED TO DO THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE!

Therefore, look at what 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are doing who have no PEACE OF MIND, who have no control, who have no power and who have no influence!

Look exactly at what they are doing, look at their poor body language, look at how they communicate with the Intensive Care team(they usually “suck up” to the Intensive Care team), they are generally passive, they don’t ask questions, they tend to put all trust and faith in the Intensive Care team without doing their own research and worst of all they just don’t believe that PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence is something they can achieve!

Got that?

It’s time to take action!

So after you’ve observed what 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are doing who have no PEACE OF MIND, who have no power, who have no control and who have no influence you and your Family have decided that it’s time to do the complete opposite of what they are doing!

Because by now you know that PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence are possible!

You know that you need to make up your own mind, you know that you need to do your own research, you know that you shouldn’t take everything for “FACE VALUE” the Intensive Care team is telling you, you know that most decisions in Intensive Care happen “BEHIND THE SCENES”, hidden away from Families and you also know that the Intensive Care team more often than not has a hidden agenda, especially if your critically ill loved one is

• very unstable and in a very critical condition

• in a life threatening situation

• in Intensive Care for long-term treatments and long-term stays

• having a severe(traumatic) head or brain injury

• threatened with an “NFR”(Not for resuscitation) or “DNR”(Do not resuscitate) order

• In a situation where the Intensive Care team suggests a “withdrawal of treatment” or a “limitation of treatment” as being “in the best interest” of your critically ill loved one

• approaching their end of life in Intensive Care

You also know that you are in a “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situation and you know by now that you can’t really afford to getting this “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” wrong!

You also know by now that the Intensive Care team is too busy talking to you, you also know by now that they tend to talk over you and at you rather than entering into a genuine dialogue with you and you know by now that the Intensive Care team speaks all medical and academic jargon and they are not really interested in answering your difficult questions!

“What about if my critically ill loved one is dying?”

“What about if my critically ill loved one will not have the same quality of life than they had before they got admitted to Intensive Care?”

“What about if my critically ill loved one has a head injury or brain damage, will they wake up?”

“What about if my critically ill loved one needs to stay in Intensive Care for many weeks?”

Those are just a snapshot of questions that Families of critically ill Patients tend to ask on a consistent basis, however Families of critically ill Patients generally are afraid in asking them because they are worried that they look stupid when asking those questions and the Intensive Care team tends to be very vague in answering them, because if they did, they might give away too much information and besides they also think that they are too busy in answering them…

Doing your own research pays dividends

If you have come this far and if you have started to do your own research, you have already sensed that you need to stop looking now what everybody else is doing and you have realised that you need to do the complete opposite!

You know that there is no turning back, you know that doing the complete opposite of what 99% of Families of critically ill Patients are doing is giving you leverage, it’s giving you PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!

And you know that your critically ill loved one’s prognosis, their diagnosis, the care and treatment they’ve been offered or not offered goes way beyond what you see on the surface!

You know that the dynamics, the politics, the power play, the psychology, the intrigue and the hidden agendas “BEHIND THE SCENES” are extremely powerful forces that you mustn’t ignore if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!

Medical research brings conflict of interest situations!

You also know by now that Intensive Care and the medical research that is constantly being performed on real human beings, often without them and their Families knowing, is a Billion $$$ Dollar per year industry and there are massive interests that come attached with medical research!

You know by now that diagnosis, prognosis and care and treatment offered for your critically ill loved one by the Intensive Care team can be subject to their competing interests that you now have an awareness about!

You have the choice to continue running with the herd and do what everybody else is doing or you can do what my mentor told me a few years back:

IF YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE ANYTHING WORTHWHILE IN LIFE, YOU NEED TO LOOK AT WHAT EVERYBODY ELSE IS DOING AND YOU NEED TO DO THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE!“

Here is your chance to do the complete opposite of what everybody else is doing and get PEACE OF MIND, CONTROL, POWER AND INFLUENCE!

 

How can you have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?

You get to that all important feeling of PEACE OF MIND, CONTROL, POWER AND INFLUENCE when you download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” report NOW by entering your email below!

In Your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” report you’ll learn quickly how to get PEACE OF MIND, real power and real control and how you can influence decision making fast, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care! Your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” Report gives you in-depth insight that you must know whilst your loved one is critically ill or is even dying in Intensive Care! Sign up and download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT now by entering your email below!

In your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT you’ll learn how to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language so that the doctors and the nurses know straight away that you are an insider and that you know and understand what’s really happening in Intensive Care!

In your FREE report you’ll also discover

• How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
• Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
• How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
• 5 “killer” tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
• You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
• How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
• You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
• How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)

Thank you for tuning into this week’s “BLOG” and I’ll see you again in another update next week!

Make sure you also check out our “YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED” section where we answer your questions or send me an email to [email protected] with your questions!

Also check out our Products section where you get more Ebooks, Videos and Audio recordings and where you can also get 1:1 consulting!

This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!

Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel

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