Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we instantly improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power and real control so that you can influence decision making fast, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
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In this week’s blog I want to share with you
“The 6 phrases you should never say when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care”.
Your mindset is absolutely critical
Your mindset is absolutely critical when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care and it’s often the only thing that you can directly control and it can make all the difference to get you, your Family and your critically ill loved one through the challenge of being critically ill in Intensive Care!
A negative mindset and negative thinking gets you away from what you want and it also diminishes your level of power, control and influence that you need whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!
Your positive mindset is crucial!
On the other hand, a positive mindset is crucial for your level of control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care! Therefore, you need to know what to do in order to stay not only positive, but you also need to know how to avoid negative thinking and negative framing of the situation that you, your Family and your critically ill loved one are in!
How to stay positive if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care
In more than 15 years Intensive Care nursing I have accompanied and supported dozens Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care and I have seen that negative thinking is often prevalent and with that negative thinking there are often phrases or sayings that Families use that directly impact on their level of power, control and influence they have, while their loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!
So let’s look at those 6 phrases, why you shouldn’t use them and what you need to do instead!
1. I’m giving up hope
“I’m giving up” or “I’m giving up hope” is one of the worst things that you can say or think! I know that the situation of having a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care is really devastating and frightening, but giving up is the worst thing that you can do!
Winning against the odds often starts with your belief of beating the odds and giving up or giving up hope is not part of beating the odds! This is even more important if the Intensive Care team is painting a negative and grim “doom and gloom” picture for your critically ill loved one that you shouldn’t buy into!
You should always question the Intensive Care team’s motives for their positioning of your loved one’s prognosis and diagnosis. The Intensive Care team may in fact give up or they may not have the patience or they don’t want to invest the resources and they don’t want to do “whatever it takes” in order to get your critically ill loved one through this challenge!
2. I think we’re not getting what we want
This is another big challenge and another phrase you must never use, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!
One of the most important mindsets you need to adopt whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care is your belief about that you can get and will get what you want! As a rule of thumb, you should always question the Intensive Care team’s positioning, their motives and the things they are saying and they are not saying, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!
Your belief that you can achieve what you want in this difficult situation is making all the difference and it will challenge the Intensive Care team if you exercise that belief!
After all the Intensive Care team has its own hidden agenda and that hidden agenda is often dependent on the moving parts in the background of an Intensive Care Unit and those moving parts are mainly the politics in Intensive Care, the Financial budget and other admissions awaiting an ICU bed!
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3. I think I/we can’t control the situation
Again, one of the biggest challenges in Intensive Care is that Families of critically ill Patients feel that they have no control, no power and that they can’t influence decision making!
Nothing could be further from the truth and you can and will have control, power and influence if you
• Believe that you can
• Know what to do
• Know what questions to ask
• Know about the moving parts in Intensive Care
• Know that the Intensive Care team doesn’t always act in the best interest of your critically ill loved one
Armed with that knowledge you will be able to control your and your loved one’s destiny and you will have power and influence
4. I think I/we don’t have any power
Families of critically ill Patients often feel powerless and they often feel intimidated by the doctors and the nurses in Intensive Care! Stop feeling powerless and stop feeling intimidated by the doctors and the nurses in Intensive Care! After all, they are only human too!
The more research you do regarding the critical illness of your loved one and the more awareness you have about what’s happening “behind the scenes” in Intensive Care, the more power you will have!
5. I don’t think I can influence the outcome
Having a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care is often a devastating experience, especially if your loved one has a poor prognosis, is a long-term Patient or if you have been told that your loved one may not survive their ordeal in Intensive Care.
If that is the positioning of the Intensive Care team you need to question why they have positioned themselves that way. Is it because they have a negative mindset? Is it because they don’t have the patience? Is it because they don’t want to invest precious resources into your critically ill loved one’s recovery? Is it because they have other Patients awaiting admission into Intensive Care and they need the bed?
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- AVOID MISTAKES YOU ARE MAKING AND DOING THE RIGHT THINGS WHILST YOUR LOVED ONE IS CRITICALLY ILL IN INTENSIVE CARE!
The more you know and the more questions you ask, the more influence you will have and the more you will be in charge of your own destiny!
6. But the Doctor/ the Intensive Care team said…
This is probably one of the worst statements that Families of critically ill Patients can make and if Families make that statement it often shows that they are intimidated by the Intensive Care team! And it often shows that you feel powerless, out of control and without influence!
If you want to have control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care and if you want to be perceived as strong, influential, impactful and knowledgeable by the Intensive Care team and if you want to be in control of your and your critically ill loved one’s destiny and if you want to make an impact, download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT NOW by entering your email below!
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Thank you for tuning into this week’s blog and I’ll see you again in another update next week!
This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!