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Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM, where we instantly improve the lives for Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can make informed decisions, have peace of mind, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making fast, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In the last blog I talked about
What is a good death in Intensive Care?
You can check out the last blog by clicking on the link here.
In this week’s blog I want to talk about
5 ways of transforming the negativity of the Intensive Care team into positive energy!
Before I get into today’s topic I want to share a quote with you that I wrote on today’s topic and the quote says
Families who have a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care are faced with massive challenges.
They are faced with the uncertainty of the critical illness of their loved one and if that wasn’t bad enough, they are also faced with the negativity of the Intensive Care team.
More than 95% of the families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who come to Intensivecarehotline.com and seek out help are telling us that the negativity of the Intensive Care team is one of the biggest challenges they are facing!
Intensive Care teams almost always seem to be overtly negative and they are overtly negative because of their “hidden agenda” and they are negative because they want to stay in control of the meaning and the outcome of the critical illness of your loved one.
Most families in Intensive Care think that the Intensive Care team should be positive and they should be doing everything within their power to save their critically ill loved one’s life only to be disappointed to find that the opposite is true!
Once a family of a critically ill Patient in Intensive Care has found that most Intensive Care teams are negative to simply stay in control of the outcomes and the meaning, it is often too late to make informed decisions, get peace of mind, control, power and influence!
Therefore being proactive, doing your own research, taking a stand and not taking “no” for an answer are essential ingredients for a family in Intensive Care to make informed decisions, get peace of mind, control, power and influence!
So let’s get into today’s topic.
Over the last few weeks I have been working with a client who had their loved one in Intensive Care for nearly 2 months before they finally left Intensive Care alive!
This was a huge success, considering the circumstances and the challenges this family and their loved one were facing during their stay in Intensive Care.
One of the biggest challenges on top of the client’s family member’s critical illness was the negativity of the Intensive Care team!
I have written about this in a previous blog post, please check out When an Intensive Care Unit is failing one of their families! A real life case study!
Thankfully, after I helped my client to position their family member’s diagnosis, prognosis as well as their care and their treatment in a light that made it very difficult if not impossible for the Intensive Care team to be negative the dynamics changed very quickly in our favour.
The Intensive Care team had no other choice not only to continue treatment but also to give best and standard treatment.
The positioning of the Intensive Care team and the Intensive Care doctors in particular in the beginning was that it was “in the best interest” for my client’s family member to “withdraw treatment” and “withdraw life support”.
Worst of all, they were basically asking the family to agree to do the unthinkable to let their husband, father, son, grandfather, uncle and brother die!
This would have certainly resulted in my client’s family member dying very quickly had we “given in” like 99% of the families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care do when being challenged by the “perceived power” and the “perceived authority” of the Intensive Care team!
The good news is that after nearly 20 years Intensive Care nursing experience in three different countries where I literally worked with thousands of critically ill Patients and their families, where I have also worked as a Nurse Unit Manager for over 5 years and with now counselling and consulting families in Intensive Care 1:1 on a day by day basis here at INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM, I know Intensive Care, the dynamics and the games Intensive Care teams play inside out so that I can leverage that knowledge to successfully advocate for our clients here at INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and help them get the results that they want and deserve for their critically ill loved one!
Even by the time my client’s family member was ready to go to the ward and leave Intensive Care ALIVE the Intensive Care team was still trying to be very negative.
Rather than celebrating this achievement of saving a life, we could clearly hear that they didn’t like to be challenged right until the end…
The last challenge that we had to overcome was to ensure that my client’s family member was not just simply a “one-way-discharge” to the ward but had the right to come back to Intensive Care in case he would deteriorate!
And again, we successfully positioned my client’s diagnosis and their prognosis to have them being readmitted to Intensive Care in case they need to.
When families have a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care it is really all about having perspective, insider and “BEHIND THE SCENES” knowledge to get the outcomes that you want and deserve!
It is therefore that I have also identified 5 ways in how to transform the negativity of the Intensive Care team into positive energy that will help you get the outcomes that you want, need and deserve for your critically ill loved one!
1. Do your own research!
Doing your own research when you’re having a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care always pays dividends!
But doing your own research means not looking up a medical research paper from a university or from a hospital that’s written in medical language and medical jargon!
Doing your own research means looking up INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM where you can find tailor made solutions for families in Intensive Care and where you can find all the information that you need in a language that you can understand and speaks to you directly!
Our information here at INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM is written in plain English and not in medical jargon. The information here is tailor made for you and your family and it’s based on real world examples and real world experience!
And as a positive side effect, our information here at INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM is empowering you to stand up for what you know is right!
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2. Do not and never take “no” for an answer!
The best people that we work with are the ones who won’t take “no” for an answer!
99% of the families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care make no informed decisions, have no peace of mind, no control, no power and no influence!
They therefore also don’t get the outcomes and results they so much want, need and deserve!
They are too intimidated by the “perceived power” and the “perceived authority” of the Intensive Care team and they don’t see the bigger picture and they certainly can’t see that what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care is what’s driving the negativity of the Intensive Care team!
Now, the very few families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who don’t take “no” for an answer also tend to be the ones who are not shying away from being “difficult and demanding”.
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3. Find out what’s really going on
Again, if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care and if you take everything for “face value” and if you don’t question the negativity of the Intensive Care team, if you don’t question their motives and if you are blind to what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care you stand a very good chance that you’ll be “walked all over” like 99% of the families in Intensive Care who don’t make informed decisions, have no power, no control and no influence!
Intensive Care teams tend to be particularly negative when your loved one is either
During those challenging, heartbreaking and difficult situations Intensive Care team tend to be particularly negative and they above everything else want to call the shots, control the meaning and the outcomes of those situations.
If you don’t know what’s really going on during the situations that I mentioned above, if you don’t read between the lines, interpret information quickly and really look at what’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care you’ll stand no chance and the Intensive Care team will get the outcome that they want!
You’ve really got to give yourself a “crash course” to get all of the insider knowledge in Intensive Care and most of the information you’ll need in order to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language you’ll find on our website!
Of course, if you’ll engage with me 1:1 in either email or phone counselling and consulting, I can help you very very quickly to get you the outcomes and results that you and your family want, need and deserve!
4. Believe in yourself and that you can turn things around!
99% of the families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are intimidated by the Intensive Care team’s “perceived power” and their “perceived authority” and they therefore make no informed decisions, have no peace of mind, no control, no power and no influence!
The families who work with us in 1:1 in either email or phone counselling and consulting and who let us talk to Intensive Care teams, have a believe that they can turn things around and that they can achieve the outcomes that they want, need and deserve!
We can help them achieve their goals much faster, because we understand Intensive Care, the dynamics, the politics, the meanings and the stuff that’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” that matters inside out.
We know and understand all the BS that’s going on in Intensive Care and we can leverage this insider knowledge to your advantage and help you get the outcomes and results that you want, need and deserve very quickly!
Therefore, mixing your believes that you can change things, turn things around and get the outcomes that you want with our insider knowledge and our proven strategies will in natural fact give you and your family the outcomes that you want, need and deserve!
5. Seek expert advocacy advice
Most families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care when they first come to us and find our website INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM feel completely lost and totally outside of their comfort zone.
Our goal is to give you hope, direction and most of all empowerment so that you can get the outcomes and results that you and your family want!
Rather than banging your head on the wall with an Intensive Care team that’s used to intimidate families and therefore get the outcomes that they want, let us deal with them.
We speak their language and we know how to position your critically ill loved one’s diagnosis, their prognosis as well as their care and their treatment so that you can maximise your chances to get the outcomes that you, your family and your critically ill loved one want, need and deserve!
How can you become the best advocate for your critically ill loved one, make informed decisions, get PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence quickly, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?
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In your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT you’ll learn how to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language so that the doctors and the nurses know straight away that you are an insider and that you know and understand what’s really happening in Intensive Care!
In your FREE report you’ll also discover
- How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
- Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
- How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
- 5 mind blowing tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to making informed decisions, get PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
- You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
- How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
- You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
- How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care (it’s not what you think)
Thank you for tuning into this week’s BLOG and I’ll see you again in another update next week!
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This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!