Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we INSTANTLY improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making fast, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In last week’s BLOG I’ve shown you
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In this week’s BLOG I want to share with you
5 STEPS TO BECOME A BETTER NEGOTIATOR IF YOUR LOVED ONE IS CRITICALLY ILL IN INTENSIVE CARE!
It’s a frustrating situation being at the helm of other people, especially in such a difficult and stressful situation such as having a loved one critically ill in Intensive Care!
It might take you a few days in order to get your head around of what’s being said and what you’ve been told if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care. The things you hear from the people within the Intensive Care team may sometimes be contradictory and you may wonder whom you should believe.
Other people are driving the bus and you need to be aware of it…
The reality is however, that other people are driving the bus and you may have little control, little power and no influence in the decision making process whatsoever as a starting point. That’s how you might feel anyway. The big machinery that is Intensive Care is rolling and it’s usually hard to stop it if you don’t know what to do. This often stems from you and your family not being ‘insiders’ into the Intensive Care world and it also comes from the “perceive power” that doctors and nurses have within Intensive Care.
Don’t hand over your power to the Intensive Care team because it positions your poorly for what you want
The “perceived power” of doctors and nurses also comes from many families in Intensive Care ‘handing’ over their power to them and they often feel intimidated and they therefore “suck up” to the health professionals, whilst their loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care. You need to stop that, right here and there. Stop “sucking up” to the doctors and the nurses in Intensive Care. It’s the single biggest mistake people are making and it puts you in a position where you have no or little negotiation power for what you want. It positions you really poorly for the outcomes that you want.
You need to counteract the Intensive Care team’s “game plan”
The game plan is usually already laid down for you and for your critically ill loved one, irrespective of the condition your loved one is in. The game plan may or may not be in your critically ill loved one’s best interest, depending on the other wheels that are in motion in the background. Unless you are aware of the turning wheels in the background or unless you are actively asking questions, you and your Family may really be at the mercy of this big machinery!
Limited resources in Intensive Care and what you need to know about it
Think about it for a minute. Any Intensive Care Unit has limited resources and those resources need to be managed. Those limited resources in general tend to be beds, staff and equipment. Usually there is a high demand on ICU beds and also for ICU staff, whether it be doctors or nurses. Therefore, the pressure is on. Other admissions may be awaiting admission to Intensive Care and therefore, the strategy for treatment of your critically ill loved one may be presented to you in a certain way. For example, you may get told that your loved one only has a few days to live. How do you know it is true? Who can verify, discuss or confirm that your loved one is dying? Where do you get help from in such a difficult situation?
- THE 10 THINGS YOU DIDN’T KNOW ARE HAPPENING BEHIND THE SCENES IN INTENSIVE CARE THAT HOLD YOU BACK FROM HAVING PEACE OF MIND, CONTROL, POWER AND INFLUENCE, WHILST YOUR LOVED ONE IS CRITICALLY ILL IN INTENSIVE CARE!
- THE 10 THINGS YOU DIDN’T KNOW DOCTORS AND NURSES ARE TALKING ABOUT IF YOUR LOVED ONE IS CRITICALLY ILL IN INTENSIVE CARE, WHEN YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ARE NOT PRESENT AT THE BEDSIDE!
The most important part in such a difficult situation is your mental positioning. You need to be well positioned mentally and in order to achieve such a positioning and also in order to become a good negotiator for the outcomes you want, irrespective of what the Intensive Care team is telling you, you need to take the following five steps
- Stop “sucking up” to the doctors and the nurses in Intensive Care and stop being intimidated by their “perceived power” and “perceived authority”. I see this all the time and it’s the single biggest mistake Families of critically ill Patients make. If you treat the doctors and nurses as equals the power is shifting immediately and you are no longer at the mercy of the health professionals
2. Make sure that you question everything- Do not stop asking questions
3. You and your Family need to stick together and you need to speak with one voice. Unity can move mountains and if your Family sticks together and speaks with one voice, you are in a much better position to get what you want, irrespective of the situation you and your critically ill loved one are in
- THE 5 THINGS FAMILIES DO WHO HAVE PEACE OF MIND, ARE IN CONTROL, FEEL POWERFUL AND INFLUENCE DECISION MAKING FAST, WHILST YOUR LOVED ONE IS CRITICALLY ILL IN INTENSIVE CARE!
4. Start asking for more time. Sometimes you might get told that your loved one only has a few days to live. Life support such as ventilation can sometimes extend your loved one’s life and it might ‘buy’ time in order for you to come to terms with the loss of your loved one or it might buy time in order for your loved one to recover. Things do sometimes turn around against the odds
5. This is probably the hardest one. Position yourself well mentally and be prepared for whatever the situation throws at you. This is easier said than done. But it’s critical that you brace yourself and find your inner strength to confront the situation. I see all too often that because Families are overwhelmed, stressed, frustrated and vulnerable by their critically ill loved one’s ordeal that they are paralysed and they don’t know what to do and they are therefore at the mercy of the health professionals in Intensive Care. Your inner strength is critical getting what you want and getting you through this difficult situation
How can you have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?
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- How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
- Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
- How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
- 5 mind blowing tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
- You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
- How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
- You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
- How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)
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This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!