The 5 things you didn’t know you need doing whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!

Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we instantly improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making FAST, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!

In last week’s blog I gave you

“The 5 reasons why you need to be difficult and demanding when your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care”.

You can read, watch or listen to last week’s update here.

In this week’s blog I want to talk about

“The 5 things you didn’t know you need doing whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!”

If one of your Family members has just been admitted to Intensive Care and is being treated there for critical illness, there is a very high chance that you and your Family feel very vulnerable, overwhelmed, frustrated, out of control, powerless without having any influence, you feel challenged and you are probably left struggling with this new situation that you, your Family and your critically ill loved have found yourself in.

Worst of all, you feel like the decision making process around the treatment, prognosis and diagnosis for your critically ill loved is more often than not made without your consultation and input. After all, the Intensive Care team should know best, shouldn’t they? And that’s what the Intensive Care team will tell you implicitly or explicitly that they “know” what’s best…

During a time of crises, you need to know what to do
During a time of crisis like this it’s very easy to get caught in the opinions of “experts” and it’s very easy to lose sight of what’s important. Your emotions are probably running wild and you haven’t eaten or slept properly and you have probably spent day and night in Intensive Care to be with your critically ill loved one! You are probably physically and mentally exhausted and you and your Family don’t know what lies ahead…

Rather than blindly following the Intensive Care team’s expertise, you may also consider doing your own research. After all there are many moving parts in a busy Intensive Care Unit that you and your Family are unaware of and those moving parts “behind the scenes” so to speak, often have a dramatic impact on how the Intensive Care team positions themselves and also positions the prognosis and diagnosis of your critically ill loved one…

If you don’t have the knowledge about the “behind the scenes” movements of an Intensive Care Unit and if you are unaware of the intrigue, the politics and the Psychology at play in an Intensive Care Unit you will do what 99% of Families of Critically ill Patients in Intensive Care do and follow the Intensive Care team blindly… (Related Article: The 5 reasons why you should not trust the Intensive Care team blindly if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care)

after all you don’t know what you don’t know… and if you happen to follow the Intensive Care team blindly you’ll wind up having no control, power and no influence and you, your Family and your critically ill loved one are at the complete and total mercy of the Intensive Care team. Not a good position to be in.

Going against the grain is often your best bet, so to speak
If you want to be in that 1% bracket of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have control, power and influence you need to go against the grain, you need to educate yourself and you need to get a different perspective!

More importantly you need to educate yourself on the secrets of Intensive Care and therefore I want to give you some of those secrets that will leverage your control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care.

I therefore give you “The 5 things you didn’t know you need doing whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!” Once you know those 5 things you will set yourself apart from 99% of the Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care and you will find that if you apply the secrets that you learn at INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM you will turn the tables in your favour and you will have control, power and influence!

Again, before I dive into “The 5 things you didn’t know you need doing whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!” you need to be aware that what I’m giving you here is contrarian advice to what everybody else is doing. Everybody else will just follow the herd or even worse will follow the Intensive Care team blindly…

1. Always question the prognosis and diagnosis for your critically ill loved one given to you by the Intensive Care team

For somebody not familiar with Intensive Care, it’s easy to just take for face value what the Intensive Care team is telling you. It’s even easier to believe everything the Intensive Care team is telling you, given that your emotions are running wild and given that you are out of your comfort zone.

Again, the contrarian advice here is to take your emotions out of the situation for a moment and contemplate what is at play here. Always keep in mind that Intensive Care treatment is very expensive, in an environment where people are constantly competing for scarce resources. You therefore need to find out whether your loved one’s stay and treatment in Intensive Care might compete with other interests.

It is therefore that if you have been told that your loved one is dying or if the Intensive Care team suggests a “withdrawal of treatment” or a “withdrawal of life support” and you need to find out whether there’s a genuine clinical reason or whether it is a financial/ business reason or whether other Patients are awaiting admission into scarce Intensive Care bed.

Recommended resources:

THE 5 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW IF THE MEDICAL TEAM IN INTENSIVE CARE WANTS TO “LIMIT TREATMENT”, WANTS TO “WITHDRAW TREATMENT” OR “WITHDRAW LIFE SUPPORT” OR WANTS TO ISSUE A “DNR” (DO NOT RESUSCITATE) OR AN “NFR” (NOT FOR RESUSCITATION) ORDER FOR YOUR CRITICALLY ILL LOVED ONE!

FOLLOW THIS PROVEN 6 STEP PROCESS, ON HOW TO BE POWERFUL, IN CONTROL, INFLUENTIAL AND HAVE PEACE OF MIND, IF YOUR LOVED ONE IS A LONG-TERM PATIENT IN INTENSIVE CARE OR IS FACING TREATMENT LIMITATIONS IN INTENSIVE CARE!

PEACE OF MIND, CONTROL, POWER AND INFLUENCE EVEN IN THE MOST CHALLENGING OF CIRCUMSTANCES THAT YOU, YOUR FAMILY AND YOUR CRITICALLY ILL LOVED ONE COULD POSSIBLY FACE IN INTENSIVE CARE!

2. You need to challenge the Intensive Care team on every level, especially if your loved one is approaching their end of life and/or if your critically ill loved one is facing a long-term stay in Intensive Care

There are few situations in life that are more difficult, challenging and emotionally draining than having a loved one in Intensive Care who is either approaching their end of life and/or is a long-term Patient. Both situations tend to be terrible and often the Intensive Care team, as well as the Families and their critically ill loved ones are at a loss of what to do.

The contrarian advice here is that you and your Family need to demand more of the Intensive Care team, in order to get the best possible treatment for your critically ill loved one. Often when you get told by the Intensive Care team that your loved one is dying, you need to question that assumption. Is the Intensive Care team not following through on your loved one’s treatment because they have other competing interests? Does the Intensive Care team have a limited mindset and therefore doesn’t believe in the recovery of your critically ill loved one? Does the Intensive Care team not want to invest the time, resources and energy that it takes to treat a long-term Patient in Intensive Care?

3. You need to stop thinking that “the Doctors know what’s best”, because this belief is so wrongly ingrained in society that if you keep believing it, you are giving away your level of control, power and influence on a platter

Know this: Yes, doctors and nurses are highly skilled professionals, however society also has this wrong belief “that they always know what’s best”. And that’s how they often position themselves, because society has allowed them to do so.

Again, the contrarian advice here is to question their assumptions. How could Doctors possibly know what’s best for your critically ill loved one, if they don’t know your loved one personally? How do Doctors know how your critically ill loved one deals with adversity? Has your critically ill loved one beaten the odds before? Is your critically ill loved one resilient? If you only answered “Yes” to one of those questions, you need to listen to your gut and not to the doctors. If you know that your critically ill loved one can beat the odds then it’s time to tell the Intensive Care team and you should be doing that irrespective if the prognosis, diagnosis and positioning of the Intensive Care team!

4. Irrespective of the diagnosis and the prognosis you have been given for your critically ill loved one, you must know and learn about the moving parts in Intensive Care that are impacting the Intensive Care team’s positioning

Both, the prognosis and diagnosis of your critically ill loved one, as well as the positioning of the Intensive Care team is usually heavily impacted by the moving parts behind the scenes in an Intensive Care Unit!

Therefore, the contrarian advice here is to find out what the moving parts are in an Intensive Care Unit. Could it be that the Intensive Care team deems the treatment and therapy for your critically ill loved one as too expensive or not profitable? Could it be that having your loved one critically ill in Intensive Care for long periods of time would impact on other Patients awaiting admission to Intensive Care? Could it be that the Intensive Care Unit is not interested in treating your critically ill loved one to the best of their abilities, because it’s not their area of expertise, where the Intensive Care Unit can “shine” and get good publicity?

Recommended resources:

THE 10 THINGS YOU DIDN’T KNOW ARE HAPPENING BEHIND THE SCENES IN INTENSIVE CARE THAT HOLD YOU BACK FROM HAVING PEACE OF MIND, CONTROL, POWER AND INFLUENCE, WHILST YOUR LOVED ONE IS CRITICALLY ILL IN INTENSIVE CARE!

5. If you have been told by the Intensive Care team that your critically ill loved one is dying or won’t have any future “Quality of Life” after their critical illness, you must absolutely make sure that your values and beliefs are stronger than the Intensive Care team’s values and beliefs

The Intensive Care team lives and breathes Intensive Care, every day. You and your Family don’t. It is therefore very easy to get caught and trapped into the mindset of the Intensive Care team. Given the stressful situation you and your Family are in, it’s very easy to forget about your values and beliefs!

The contrarian advice here is to make sure that your values and beliefs are stronger than the values and beliefs of the Intensive Care team. The reality is that if your values and beliefs are not stronger than the Intensive Care team’s, they will walk all over you, because generally speaking 99% of Families of critically ill Patients don’t question and that’s their biggest challenge!

How can you further leverage your level of PEACE OF MIND, power, influence and control whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care?

You’ll get to that all important feeling of power, control and influence when you download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” report NOW by entering your email below! In Your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” report you’ll learn quickly how to get real power and real control and how you can influence decision making fast, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care! Our FREE reports help you with in-depth insight that you must know whilst your loved one is critically ill or is dying in Intensive Care! Sign up for your FREE membership and download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT now!

In your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT you’ll learn how to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language so that the doctors and the nurses know straight away that you are an insider and that you know and understand what’s really happening in Intensive Care!

In your FREE reports you’ll also discover

How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
5 “killer” tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)

Thank you for tuning into this week’s “blog” and I’ll see you again in another update next week!

Make sure you also check out our “your questions answered” section for more tips and strategies or send me an email to [email protected] with your questions!

Also check out our Products section where you get more Ebooks, Videos and Audio recordings and where you can also get 1:1 consulting!

This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!

Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel