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Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we instantly improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making fast, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!

In last week’s blog I’ve shown you “How to quickly become resilient whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care”

You can read, watch or listen to last week’s update here.

In this week’s blog I want to show you “The 5 step contrarian advice for Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care that gives you control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care”

If your loved one has been admitted to Intensive Care for critical illness, chances are that you feel out of your comfort zone. Furthermore, you feel challenged, frustrated, stressed, vulnerable and you feel like there is very little or no support for Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care.

You most likely also feel like everything is in the hands of the Intensive Care team and you may feel like the Intensive Care team is not really telling you about what’s been happening, what’s about to happen and where your critically ill loved one is really up to. If the Intensive Care team is telling you and giving you updates they do so in their medical jargon and in their medical language that leaves you wondering of what they have really said. Not a good position to be in.

You may have also wondered and worried how you, your Family and your critically ill loved one are going to get through this challenging and often “once in a lifetime” situation, as there tends to be so little support, education and information for Families of critically ill Patients available and if you are given information, the Intensive Care team doesn’t really speak your language… and they tend to speak their own medical language and jargon…

Now, if you are like most Families of critically ill Patients you just leave it there and you suffer silently and you hope for the best and you keep wondering…

Hope is NOT a strategy that works in the face of adversity
As hope generally is not a strategy that gets you results, you and your Family are like the majority of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care and you continue to have no control, no power and no influence during this time where your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care…

Meanwhile the Intensive Care team continues to run the show, continues to use their medical jargon and they continue to keep you “half informed” so to speak…

Again, not a good position to be in.
And if you are like 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care you give in to the perceived power dynamics in Intensive Care, where you perceive that the Intensive Care team holds all the power, control and influence.

Unless you have started to think about getting informed and doing your own research so to speak. That is a great starting point and it puts your very close to those 1% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have control, power and influence, because those Families have realised that in order to get the best possible result and best possible outcome for your critically ill loved one you need to do something about it, get informed, do your own research and also challenge the perceived dynamics in Intensive Care, that the Intensive Care team has well scripted for you so that you don’t have any control, power and influence…

Taking a few counterintuitive steps might help…
More importantly, in order to be in that 1% bracket of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have control, power and influence, you and your Family need to take a very counterintuitive step and you need to look at what 99% of the Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care do, which is being passive, and you need to do the total opposite of what they do. And the reality and the matter of the fact is that if you and your Family do the total opposite of what 99% of Families of critically ill Patients do, you will find yourself in a position where you will have control, power and influence and you will be getting results!

As I have said, you and your Family need to go against the grain and therefore I give you “The 5 step contrarian advice for Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care that gives you control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care”

1.       Look at what other Families(in fact 99% of Families) in Intensive Care are doing and do the complete opposite!

Given that you have come to this website and that you have started to look for information about critical illness and Intensive Care, shows that you are taking the first steps to becoming informed and you are probably fed up with the Intensive Care team not speaking your language and that they only use their medical jargon that you can’t understand.

As I have mentioned before 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care suffer silently and they don’t question the dynamics and the power games the Intensive Care team plays and those Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care continue to have no power, no control and no influence!

You are well on your way in turning the perceived power dynamics around and you are well on your way to have control, power and influence if you continue educating yourself here at www.INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.com and if you start challenging the status quo.

2.       Keep asking the right and sometimes difficult questions

Most Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are so overwhelmed, challenged, frustrated, vulnerable, powerless, stressed and without real support that their emotions have taken over and they can’t think clearly. Those Families are therefore not in a position to simply ask the right questions. The reality is that if you simply ask the right questions you get the right answers.

If you are like 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care you are overwhelmed by the perceived power of the Intensive Care team. If you however belong in that 1% bracket of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have control, power and influence you will ask the right questions and you are not afraid to ask difficult questions and some of those questions are questions that will take the Intensive Care team off balance so to speak. And so they should, because if you’re not asking the right and difficult questions you stand very little chance in gaining any control, power or influence. But you can only ask the right questions if you are taking a “crash course” so to speak about Intensive Care and if you quickly learn at www.INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.com what’s important and what questions you need to ask.

3.       Continue to be difficult and demanding

If you are like 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, you are nice, friendly and you think that the Intensive Care team holds all the power. And that’s right. They have all the power if you are friendly and nice and if you continue to think that the Intensive Care team “knows it all”.

If you are however in that 1% bracket of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have control, power and influence you probably have also realised that when it comes to critical illness, long-term stays in Intensive Care or even difficult decisions about end of life, “withdrawal of treatment”, “withdrawal of life support” and “Futility of treatment” you probably have gauged by now that the “moving parts behind the scenes” of an Intensive Care Unit, the politics, the intrigue and the psychology play a major part in how the Intensive Care team positions themselves and your critically ill loved one’s prognosis and diagnosis.

Therefore your positioning starts with asking the right questions and don’t be shy to ask difficult questions.

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4.       Change your body language

Most Families of critically ill Patients walk around in Intensive Care with their arms crossed, their head down and a slumped and poor body language. As research has shown more than 60% of what we say is in our body language and only 7% or so is in the words we use.

Walking around with poor body language and poor posture is telling the Intensive Care team and your critically ill loved one that you have no control, power and influence.

If you want to belong in that 1% bracket of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care who have control, power and influence, you need to show that to the world by changing your physique and by changing your body language. Walk upright, back straight, shoulders out, hold your head high, uncross your arms and show the world that you are ready to face this challenge. You will send clear signals and a strong non-verbal message to the Intensive Care team and your critically ill loved one as well if you have strong posture and good body language.

5.       Change your thinking

99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care have no control, power and influence because their brain has been hijacked by negative emotions. And because of that they think that they can’t have control, power and influence. In fact 99% of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care are so overwhelmed by their negative emotions that they can’t think clearly, let alone let any positive thoughts in.

Your job, if you want to belong in the 1% bracket of Families who have control, power and influence whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care is to recognize that your brain has been hijacked by negative emotions.

Your next step then is to change your thoughts from negative to positive and get your brain hijacked by positive emotions.

By you showing positivity, optimism and the belief that you can have control, power and influence, you will send an extremely strong signal to the Intensive Care team and to your critically ill lived one.

Do just that and you have already made a big impact on yourself, your Family, the Intensive Care team and your critically ill loved one, because they can feel your positive vibes and they can feel your positive energy.

How can you leverage your level of power, influence and control whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care and how can you be in control of the situation?

You’ll get to that all important feeling of power, control and influence when you download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” report NOW by entering your email below! In Your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” report you’ll learn quickly how to get real power and real control and how you can influence decision making fast, whilst your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care! Your FREE ‘INSTANT IMPACT” Report gives you in-depth insight that you must know whilst your loved one is critically ill or is dying in Intensive Care! Sign up and download your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT now by entering your email below!

In your FREE “INSTANT IMPACT” REPORT you’ll learn how to speak the “secret” Intensive Care language so that the doctors and the nurses know straight away that you are an insider and that you know and understand what’s really happening in Intensive Care!

In your FREE reports you’ll also discover

• How to ask the doctors and the nurses the right questions
• Discover the many competing interests in Intensive Care and how your critically ill loved one’s treatment may depend on those competing interests
• How to eliminate fear, frustration, stress, struggle and vulnerability even if your loved one is dying
• 5 “killer” tips& strategies helping you to get on the right path to PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence in your situation
• You’ll get real world examples that you can easily adapt to your and your critically ill loved one’s situation
• How to stop being intimidated by the Intensive Care team and how you will be seen as equals
• You’ll get crucial ‘behind the scenes’ insight so that you know and understand what is really happening in Intensive Care
• How you need to manage doctors and nurses in Intensive Care(it’s not what you think)

Thank you for tuning into this week’s “blog” and I’ll see you again in another update next week!

Make sure you also check out our “your questions answered” section for more tips and strategies or send me an email to [email protected] with your questions!

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This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!

Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel

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