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Hi, it’s Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM , where we INSTANTLY improve the lives of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, so that you can have PEACE OF MIND, real power, real control and so that you can influence decision making FAST, even if you’re not a doctor or a nurse in Intensive Care!
In last week’s BLOG I’ve shown you PART 1 of
You can check out last week’s BLOG here!
In this week’s BLOG I want to even dig deeper into the topic
“How the Intensive Care team is SKILLFULLY PLAYING WITH YOUR EMOTIONS, if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care!”(PART 2)
After I have introduced you to a real world example last week in how the Intensive Care team is SKILLFULLY PLAYING WITH YOUR EMOTIONS if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care and after I have shown you that you’re on dangerous ground every time you feel indebted and/or feel gratitude towards the Intensive Care team, because you feel like you want to or even need to return a favour when they ask you to do so, this week I want to dig in even deeper into the psychology and the dynamics at play!
You are on dangerous ground if you are feeling indebted or gratitude
Feeling gratitude or feeling that you and your family are indebted towards the Intensive Care team, because the very life and the very health of your critically ill loved one are in the hands of the Intensive Care team, makes you and your family very vulnerable and it puts you into a precarious and DANGEROUS position where you and your family are prone to make mistakes, make the wrong choice, give in to the demands from the Intensive Care team who is the “perceived authority” and who has the “perceived power”!
This makes it an EXTREMELY DANGEROUS situation for you, for your family and for your critically ill loved one, especially when you are in one of those difficult, challenging, heartbreaking and “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situations where your loved one is
- very unstable and in a very critical condition
- in a life threatening situation
the fact of the matter is that if your critically ill loved one is in one of those difficult, challenging, heartbreaking and “ONCE IN A LIFETIME” situations, the wheels that are in motion in a volatile, dynamic, highly political and intriguing environment that is driven by the Intensive Care team’s hidden agenda, that if you and your family are not on HIGH ALERT and if you and your family don’t understand the dynamics and the psychology at play, the Intensive Care team will push their agenda forward without you even knowing that it’s happening!
I can assure you that after more than 15 years Intensive Care nursing experience in three different countries and after I have worked with literally THOUSANDS of critically ill Patients and their Families that I’ve been through and witnessed many situations where the Intensive Care team has been SKILLFULLU PLAYING WITH THE EMOTIONS of Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care, only to find that the pressure the Intensive Care team is putting on to Families was driven by
- the financial interests of the intensive care team, e. will they make money $$$ or will they lose money $$$ and not meet their budget targets when continuing to treat your critically ill loved one
- The competition for scarce, precious and expensive Intensive Care beds, with other critically ill Patients waiting for admission to Intensive Care
- The medical research interests of the Intensive Care team, i.e. if your critically ill loved one doesn’t fall into a medical research category is the Intensive Care team even interested in continuing treatment on your critically ill loved one? Remember, medical research is generating multi- Million $$$ funding per year for Intensive Care Units and is used as a leverage and positioning tool for Intensive Care Units
- What’s happening “BEHIND THE SCENES” in Intensive Care such as the politics, the power play, the dynamics, the competing interests, the intrigue and the hidden agenda by the Intensive Care team
The fact of the matter is that if you don’t have an awareness and an understanding of what’s really happening in Intensive Care, the Intensive Care team will have an easy time to continue to play with your emotions SKILLFULLY!
Once again, your job, your task at hand if your loved one is critically ill in Intensive Care is to have PEACE OF MIND, control, power and influence!
And I can assure you that if you feel gratitude and if you feel indebted towards the Intensive Care team because you feel like they are doing so much for your critically ill loved one, you are walking on dangerous ground!
I’ll give you another real world example so that you really understand what I’m talking about!
Your 21 year old daughter has been in a severe car accident and she sustained severe and traumatic head and brain injuries.
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On top of that she fractured her Hip, her pelvis and her ribs.
Your daughter has been very unstable and critical from the start and especially her traumatic head and brain injuries caused the brain to swell and it caused high brain pressures(intracranial pressures).
Your daughter therefore was placed on a ventilator and in an induced coma. It was difficult from the start to manage your daughters brain pressures and therefore the Intensive care team painted a “doom and gloom” picture from the very beginning.
After about three weeks in Intensive Care and after the Hip and pelvis fractures had been fixed, your daughter still doesn’t show any signs of life and still hasn’t “woken up” and still hasn’t shown any sign of life even though she has technically come out of the induced coma.
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You and your family know that your daughter is in a critical and dangerous situation and you are anxiously waiting to see whether your daughter will “wake up” or not!
So far your daughter has been mainly unresponsive to external stimuli, however you and your family are hopeful that she will come good and that she will wake up!
The Intensive Care team is now asking to have a “formal” family meeting with you.
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During the meeting the Intensive Care consultant suggests that given that your daughter isn’t “waking up” and given that the CT-brain results of your daughter are rather bleak that they would suggest a “WITHDRAWAL OF TREATMENT” or a “LIMITATION OF TREATMENT” as “IN THE BEST INTEREST” of your critically ill daughter!
You have shown gratitude and now it’ll bite you…
The Intensive Care team knows that you and your family have shown gratitude and that you and your family have been thankful towards the Intensive Care team so far for what they’ve done for your daughter.
The Intensive Care team also feels the pressure from the Intensive Care administrators to not spend too much money $$$ on your daughter’s treatment as they know that continuing treatment for Patients with severe and traumatic brain injuries could cost tens if not hundreds of thousands of Dollars $$$!
The Intensive Care team also knows from experience that now might be the right time to bring up the topic of ”WITHDRAWAL OF TREATMENT” or a “LIMITATION OF TREATMENT” as being “IN THE BEST INTEREST” for your daughter.
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The Intensive Care team also knows from experience that most Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care on a conscious or subconscious level feel gratitude and feel indebted towards them as so far they have tried to save your daughter’s life.
“The law of reciprocity” doesn’t serve you and it may cost your daughter’s life
They therefore know that Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care give in to their demands as the “law of reciprocity” kicks in.
What most Families of critically ill Patients in Intensive Care don’t know is that especially with severe and traumatic head or brain injuries, the recovery time can be extremely long and the critically ill Patients with severe head or traumatic brain injuries need time, lots of attention and tender loving care.
Many Intensive Care teams are not willing to put in the time, the energy and the financial and emotional resources that it takes to get Patients with severe head or brain injuries on to the road of recovery.
The many competing interests in Intensive Care is what’s driving the agenda
For Intensive Care teams who are dealing with many competing interests, with politics, dynamics, power play and always have a hidden agenda that Families of critically ill Patients have generally speaking no awareness about, the easy way out of their dilemma is to shrewdly and adeptly “sell” you and your Family on a ”WITHDRAWAL OF TREATMENT” or a “LIMITATION OF TREATMENT” as being “IN THE BEST INTEREST” for your daughter.
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That’s how the Intensive Care team is driving their agenda home. That’s how Intensive Care teams manage their budget. That’s how they protect their turf so to speak.
And they know how to and when to “SKILLFULLY PLAY WITH YOUR EMOTIONS”!
That’s how the Intensive Care team manages their beds if they know that they have other critically ill Patients waiting for beds!
That’s what Intensive Care teams do, when they are not prepared to guide you through one of the most difficult, challenging and heartbreaking situations there can ever be in a Family’s life.
That’s what Intensive Care teams do, if they know that you consciously or unconsciously feel gratitude and you feel indebted towards them.
The trouble is that if you are not aware of your emotions and if you are not aware how the Intensive Care team might be “SKILLFULLY PLAYING WITH YOUR EMOTIONS”, you, your family and your critically ill loved one might be paying the highest price there is ever to pay in a situation like this.
Your loved one may die, because you’ve given in to the demands of the Intensive Care team and you’ve given in to their “perceived power” and the “perceived authority” of the Intensive Care team.
Your loved one may die, because you didn’t have a strong positioning and you didn’t pursue your agenda relentlessly.
The Intensive Care team is pursuing their mainly hidden agenda relentlessly and if you are not prepared, if you are not doing your own research and if you are not prepared to fight for what you believe in, then it might be too late…
Don’t say that I haven’t warned you!
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This is Patrik Hutzel from INTENSIVECAREHOTLINE.COM and I’ll see you again next week with another update!
Sincerely, your Friend
Patrik Hutzel
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